Mind of a Woman: Encounters of the Cute Man Kind
I was reading @WisdomIsMisery’s blog today (it’s a post from Tuesday so please give me a latepass) and I was inspired to actually put a few words in a post. It’s been a while so I’m a bit rusty. His post by **@RealGoesRight of The Analyst takes you into the mind of a man contemplating approaching a woman and every thought during andin between. Allow me to give a shy woman’s version of the same interaction. I have two types of thoughts in my head at anytime and one is far more pessimistic than the other.
Picture the same scene, you’re in a grocery store and notice a cute guy. When it comes to cute guys, most likely I saw you before you saw me.
Shy Thought #1: Is he single? Where’s his girl? Can he cook? Damn he cute. I should go holla. But I’ll just keep staring at these vegetables.
Shy Thought #2: No, go talk to him. Break the ice.
ST #1: Nope. Imma stand right here frozen until he disappears and I can go get that spinach I actually came for.
ST# 2: Come on girl. Be different for once. Why do men ALWAYS have to approach you first? You’re already 6 foot tall and thats intimidating enough.
ST #1: Because that’s the way it’s supposed to be besides that’s not my style. It’s been working for this long, why change now. Plus, men hate being approached anyway.
ST #2: Dang girl, say something else.
ST #1: I knew you were gonna freeze.
Him: I seen you from over there looking at veggies…you looked real confused.
Me: Yeah. Trying to decide if I should get broccoli or the mixed ones.
ST #1: Okay good. You came up with that lie pretty quickly. Good ish.
Him: Depends on what you like. Variety is the spice of life though…
Me: *laughs* So you’re suggesting I get the mixed veggies. You work here?
ST #1: Of course he doesn’t work here. It’s flirting! You mean ass.
Him: *looks at Me and looks at self* Hell nah!
ST #1: Oh okay. He gotta a little thug. Caute.
Me: I’m saying you over here recommending vegetables and whatnot.
ST #1: What did I tell you about that? Let him get his flirt on.
ST #2: If he has a sense of humor, he’ll laugh though, right.
ST #1: Please laugh! I’m not mean!
Him: Just trying to help YOU out.
Him: So…you here by yourself?
ST #1: Wait you didn’t even let him get the full sentence out. Desperate much? I hope he doesn’t actually work here.
ST #1: *Looks him up and down* Naw he’s definitely flirting. Let him carry on.
Him: I’m saying, you got enough food to cook for a small village.
ST #1: *Looks in grocery cart* Dang I do have a lot of food. Should I mention I have a sister and I cook for the both of us.
St #2: Girl chill. He doesn’t need to hear your life story just yet.
Me: Can a sister get her cook on?
Him: You can do what you like. I’m sure your man appreciates the food.
ST #1: Okay he is flirting. *phew*
ST #2: Of course he’s flirting. Now speak. You’ve been quiet for a minute
Me: He would if I had one. Is that your way of asking me if I have a boyfriend?
Him: Only if the answer to the question is no. If it’s yes, let’s just finish the conversation and I’ll let you go on about your business.
Me: *laughs* Oh. Ok. Well I don’t have one.
ST #1: I hope he didn’t see me accidentally spit a little in excitement.
ST #2: Alright cool come on. Ask me for my number!
ST #1: This ninja is hella juiced.
ST #2: Glad I’m not the only one.
Him: Nothing…so…I’m not trying to keep you or anything but I think you’re cute and if it’s cool with, I’d like to give you a call later. Just to ask you how my executive decision about your veggies came out.
ST #2: That’s not a yes. Say Yes! Speak!
Me: That’s cool. Here.
Him: Aight. Well, I’m usually in school most of the day, but I’ll give you a call either tom or the day after.
Me: Look forward to hearing from you.
ST #1: You didn’t need to say all that
Him: Looking forward to calling. Peace.
ST #2: Dang I wouldn’t mind ripping off all his clothes right now. *imagines him in his birthday suit and smiles*
Me: Later =)
ST #1: Okay that wasn’t that bad. I hope he actually calls.
ST #2: You doubted yourself for nothing. He’s going to call.
Fellas, these are pretty girl problems. No matter the woman, we get nervous too!! I am always nervous when I’m in the vicinity of a guy I think is remotely cute. And when he speaks to me, my brain freezes and I say and do dumb things. Usually, guys are so nervous themselves, they give me a chance anyway, and for that I say thank you. So the next time a girl goes out of her way to avoid eye contact, it doesn’t mean she thinks you aren’t cute, it means you might be freaking her out. [Notice I said sometimes, other times, yall are bug a boos. I can’t really give you clear signs to look for in this already long post.]
One thing is for sure, I know that men like when a girl smiles. It goes a long way. But if I’m multi tasking, my attempt at a smile usually turns into me tripping over something. I’m pretty clumsy when my nerves get to me.
If you make ME fumble, you’re IN! I’m still working on that smile. =)
**Correction: This post has been updated to reference the actual author. That’s what I get for trying to knock out a post in 20 minutes! –Friday, March 25 4:30pm