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The ex-factor

August 25, 2009
So you’ve been dating this guy for however many weeks. You’re feeling him and you guys have a good time together but something just doesn’t seem right. Your woman’s intuition is picking up on the fact that:

1. He doesn’t answer his phone around you and if he does he takes the call outside.
2.  Sometimes you send him texts or BBM’s and don’t get a response until hours, maybe days later.
3. Most of your dates consist of late night movies and dinners at lowkey restaurants that no one knows about.


So he has the symptoms…

Diagnosis: He has a girlfriend or he’s still messing with his ex!

(pause for venting) Sorry to break the news to all the “playas” out there but if that’s what you think your doing… KILL yourself… it’s 2009, grow the fuck up! Did you really think you would get away with it forever? A long time maybe, but forever NO! A woman’s patience doesn’t last that long! And as much as your simple mind hates to believe, the world is a lot smaller than you think (especially if you live in L.A.)- at some point we will find out. And when we do just pray we don’t go Jazmine Sullivan on you!

Whew! I needed that.

With that being said, ladies trust your gut instincts- if it smells like a dog, walks like a dog, then it’s a dog!

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Mr. Fantastic permalink
    September 7, 2009 11:36 pm

    Its not always that he’s got a girlfriend or an ex. Sometimes it might be because he WANTS one of those things, but sees you as Jumpoff material, so he’s trying to groom you to get accustomed to the J/O position.

    “In the cut where I keep ’em, ’til I need a nut….”
    – Jay-Z, Big Pimpin’

    And in general, ppl only do what you allow them to get away with. So if you let him go for month 1 or 2 with this behavior, why is he supposed to change it up in month 3 or 4 ???

  2. Grace Adler permalink*
    September 8, 2009 12:49 pm

    Very true! I agree that men try to make some women “J.O.’s” which can be a mutual aggreement and in that case no harm on foul on the womens part.

    However, I was speaking to the men who try to date other women and lead them to believe that he’s actually interested in something more. This post was a warning to men to think they can get away with this type of behavior… never works out to their benefit for long.

    And Men will do what u let them get away with. I may not figure our you have a gf in a month or 2 but i will find out and when I do please believe you will cease to exist in my life.

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