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Second Date: It’s Cool I Got It

September 24, 2009

when-not-to-pay-021209-lg-92639215[1]Picture this: You had such a great time, or it was at least bearable and have decided to go out again. This time I try something a little different. The most common reaction I have gotten is a look of surprise when I pull out my credit card. I then watch my dates face cringe and twist into ways I’ve never seen before. Most of the time when I say, “It’s cool I got it,” my male dates don’t know how to act but that’s not always the case.

“Oh really, you got it, cool?” (While looking relieved they don’t have to use their last few dollars on one dinner.)

“Ummm, no that’s okay. I got it.” (While giving me the, ‘I’m a man and I’m here to take care of you’ look.)

“Well let me at least take care of the tip.” (While looking a bit defeated but wanting to at least contribute to our meal.)

I always pay close attention to theses responses. Now mind you, I won’t pull my credit card out if I don’t actually have some type of interest in the guy I am sharing a table with. If I have absolutely no interest in seeing you again, trust me, I aint budging when the check comes.

If you utter any words that sound remotely like this before I willingly pull out my credit card : “You got this one right, since I paid for the last one, right?!?!?!” you better believe, no I aint got it and yes this is the last time I will be seeing you.

Why is it that some men feel so emasculated by a woman paying the bill while others expect their dates to contribute at least something or even half the time?

I personally don’t like paying when I feel it is expected, but I don’t mind picking up a few bills every once in a while since I recognize that dating is expensive. I actually think women should sincerely offer to pick a bill when dating. Men shouldn’t always be expected to pull out their credit cards but men should know how much they can and cannot afford and stay within those boundaries. I don’t need an expensive date to have fun.
Creativity is attractive.

What is your opinion? Does Ne-Yo have it right?

Ladies, How many times have you said, “Its cool, I got it.”
Should women pay for dates?

One Comment leave one →
  1. September 24, 2009 11:01 am

    Within the course of 3 dates, if she doesn’t at least Offer to pay for… i dunno, the Snacks at the movies… it gives me the impression that shes just out for a good time and i shoulda just invited her ass back to the casa. I doubt i’d let her pick up the bill but its a reassuring thing to say.

    “hey i got it”
    lol “really? nooo, stop. Thank you though”

    is usually the exchange of words.
    as opposed to me pulling out green backs each and every time and her not even Glancing at the bill. By the 3rd date, your either interested in me or your here for another reason. the bill is usually the way to tell.

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