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November 25, 2009

There isn’t enough time or space for me to explain our relationship. After 5 years of friendly flirting, semi dating and occasionally crossing the not so fine line between friendship and more, a couple of weeks ago presented the opportunity to change it all. He took me out for my birthday and ended our evening with this statement, “I want you to come over for Thanksgiving Dinner.”

My palms began sweating, I could feel the perspiration build under my arms and I had this immediate desire to kick him with all my might in his balls.  Why does he want to mess up a totally semi-casual situation with such a big step? I mean granted, I’m a great girl, smart funny, cute (don’t try to stop my ego stroking it occurs erratically.) But at this point, we aren’t serious, or at least that’s what I assumed, so why does he want me to meet every family member that has had an influence in the man that he has become.
Let’s also remember that this isn’t your average meeting. This is Thanksgiving dinner. A gathering that brings together embarrassing uncles who will probably have one too many drinks, a mother who will be all up in my business making sure I will make a great partner and a father who will well absolutely love me and secretly wish we could run away together. (I told you I was erratic when I’m nervous bear with me)
Yesterday he decided to call me to make sure I was prepared for every member of his family. It is important to him that I impress all personalities of the family: the intellects, the fashionistas, the comedians, the artists and the jet setters; all within an estimated 4 compact hours. I could tell he had been thinking a lot about this and that he was nervous. I thought it was quite charming that I wasn’t the only one worried about making this leap in our ‘friendship.’ After assuring him that his family would walk away with the same impression I had given him over the last 5 years, all those uneasy feelings I had before were gone.
Have you ever been nervous about meeting your ‘partners’ parents? Considering me and this guy are not dating in a conventional matter, I’m wondering how I will be introduced to the family. Hi [insert family members name,] this is my girl whose birthday suit I’ve come close to seeing on a few occasions but am too scared to ruin our friendship and no she’s not my girl friend Silent. Now that I think about it, we never discussed introductions in our conversation. What has he told his parents about me? Should I care considering we’re just ‘friends?’ Does this mean he wants to be more than friends?
Pause, I’m starting to feel my heart rate sky rocket again.
I hope your Thanksgiving will be less stressful than mine.
Happy Thanksgiving from the Cereal Daters

5 Comments leave one →
  1. November 25, 2009 6:22 pm

    I don’t think he would have invited you if he didn’t think you could handle it. So either he is inviting you as a friend or he is under the impression that you are more than friends already, he wouldn’t be trying to start something with you this way.

    Why don’t you just casually ask him what he has told his family about you? Maybe that will hold some clues. Or you could just blatantly ask “So am I going as your friend or your girlfriend?” Sucks to ask but at least you won’t be worrying about it so much

  2. November 27, 2009 2:37 pm

    sooooo what happened?

  3. lola permalink
    December 2, 2009 1:17 am

    Wish I had saw this post before I ran into its ok I’ll just ask you about it at the next event whenever that will be.

    But when I man has you meet his momma, fathers aren’t that big of a deal with men, that means your special to them reguardless if you have a title or not and I’m the queen of no titles.

  4. December 2, 2009 12:18 pm

    I spent Thanksgiving with my boyfriend’s family and I had a wonderful time. Luckily I’ve met most of his family a few times before so I felt a lot more comfortable than I normally would. I’m curious about how your Thanksgiving went though…you can’t just leave us hanging like that!

  5. December 2, 2009 12:51 pm

    Follow up post coming soon

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