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If It Doesn’t Get All Over the Place

April 28, 2010

“If it doesn’t get all over the place, it doesn’t belong on my plate.” Silent

There is one thing I have never been self-conscious about and it still surprises me when men say it’s an attractive trait. If you put a plate of food in front of me, I’m going to eat it. Don’t get it twisted, I have manners and am not a stranger to knife, dinner fork and a nice napkin. But I don’t change my eating habits in front of the men I date. I don’t change my eating patterns in front of anyone. I have the ability to eat whatever I want, whenever I want without worrying about what the person sitting across from me is thinking.

I remember the first time a guy said something about it a few years back. I was on a first date with a guy at a nice restaurant overlooking the beach. After looking over the menu, I decided I wanted a gourmet Portabello mushroom hamburger. *wipes drool* After the waitress left our table with our orders, my date made a comment. “I’m so glad you didn’t order a puny salad.” I didn’t know rather to take it as a compliment or an insult so I brushed off the comment and we continued our conversation interrogation.

Within 15 minutes the waitress brought out our orders. Either the burger was quite large or the plate was kind of small but the monstrosity took over a large portion of my side of the table. After blessing my meal, I proceeded to indulge in the beefy mushroom goodness. My date made another comment, “damn it’s sexy when a woman knows how to eat.”

Fast forward to last week, I had two guy friends tell me they like that I’m not afraid to eat a real meal in front of them. What else am I supposed to eat in front of them? I’m not a fan of salads, although I make sure they make appearances as a part of my diet.*

Ladies, do you change the types of food you eat when you are on a date? Or do you eat a snack before you go out so you don’t seem as hungry? Have you ever left a date still hungry because you didn’t want to finish your meal in front of your date? Fellas, do you find it sexy when a woman can throw down a quarter pounder with cheese without hesitation an adult meal with class in front of you? Would you prefer a lady that only orders appetizers or always leaves with a doggy bag?

*When I use the term diet it does not mean I’m trying to lose weight. Instead I try to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Kerry Crenshaw permalink*
    April 28, 2010 5:33 am

    I don’t believe in “eating cute” …yeah you’re not supposed to straight devour the food or exhibit bad table manners but if you’re hungry, eat.

    Any man that’s sat down with me at a dinner table knows I ain’t ashamed to eat. To me, “play eating” or “eating cute” is one of those things women do when they first meet someone and their game face is still on. And “game faces” are wack… I keep it too 100 for those 🙂 LOL

  2. April 28, 2010 9:00 am

    i like it when a woman can eat. as long as she has manners then i’m all good. i eat a lot so a woman who can eat is attractive. eff that salad ish.

  3. Jane permalink
    April 28, 2010 10:35 am

    I’ve delibertly ordered something I hadnt planned on, when a date mentioned he thought ladies should eat like birds.

    I do believe I ordered steak with all the fixings, and had desert.
    Needless to say I never returned his call for a second date.

  4. April 28, 2010 11:26 am

    I used to.. when I was younger.. watch what I ordered. As a heavier sized gal, I was very conscious (self-conscious) of what others thought when I ordered a real meal versus a puny salad. There rarely was ever a day gone by when someone didn’t remark negatively on my choices of food.. usually during whatever was my “treat” of the day.

    Now I could give a damn really. I eat what I want (what is healthy for me – not for you, but for me) and everyone else can stick it. 🙂 I’m still not a size 2, but I’m ok with that. I’m healthy.

    On a real date anyway, the food should not be the most important.. its the company, and if your date doesn’t agree, then maybe its a sign to move on.

  5. Zoë Blue permalink
    April 28, 2010 1:43 pm

    Funny, I’ve never had this happen. I think if a guy said that to me, I’d be like, “WTF? Really?” And then I’d start questioning HIS taste (ha ha) in women. I mean, what kind of man dates women who aren’t confident in their own FOOD choices?

    Also, if there are any women out there shy of eating food, I think there’s likely other issues of insecurity brewing in that poor girl’s head. I personally wouldn’t mind sitting down with these girls (none of my friends are like this) and talk to them for an hour about food, love and fear. Now that’s a conversation worth having.

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