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How many “One’s” can you have?

October 27, 2010

Please watch this 31 second video before reading the following post.

So how many “one’s” do you get?

Well if you ask some people they believe that you can have more than one, ONE. Or that they’ve even had more than one at the same time.

I had a rather interesting mid day convo with Kerry the other day in which we discussed this. In my opinion you have only one, ONE, you only get one, ONE, and all the others are not the ONE. When we think we’ve met the “one” we should be satisfied and have no need to look any further right? Wrong, men and women are never satisfied. We are constantly thinking about how green the grass is on the other side which may be a reason why some men can’t keep it in their pants and why some women can’t keep their legs closed when they are in a relationship.

Then after you realized that the ONE you had is the ONE who got away you spend your time trying to get them back but its already too late.

So what do you think? Is there one ONE for everyone?

5 Comments leave one →
  1. October 27, 2010 9:02 am

    you can have as many one’s as you want. that’s like saying there is such thing as a soul mate and if that person gets away then you’ll never achieve that level of love and understanding with another person ever. poppycock.

  2. October 27, 2010 9:09 am

    I’ve had this conversation before…and my friend pointed out an interesting occurrence.

    She said she’s had the love of her life…or “the one” …basically that person who had similar views, goals, etc. ..but they didn’t get married — because in the long run she knew that they wouldn’t work out for whatever reason (which i think is the flaw in her reasoning). She married the man who just knew and understood her — mentally and physically. The person whom she knew would be a good fit for and understands what she’s trying to do and where she’s trying be as a person and a career. Of course there is love but i think this love is a more foundational type opposed to her previous lust type of love (which i told her it was…and she refused to accept).

    but all that for…she said you only have one “One” …but you dont always marry the love of your life. and i thought that was a real interesting statement which would mean that the one you’re currently with (who may be in the dark about this) doesn’t quite satisfy you..or you’re holding on to a fantasy..which you pointed out the whole grass is greener concept.

    As far as my perspective…i think there will always be someone who fits perfectly for you at any particular phase in life — but its a phase…Once you really understand yourself, and what it is you ultimately want to accomplish in your life that is when you’ll find the one.

    or maybe im just a hopeless romantic tryin to justify it.

  3. October 27, 2010 12:53 pm

    Great post.

    I think you can have more than one ONE … it depends what time / phase of your life you are in … my 1st ONE was the first real relationship I had (but I was 17) – it could or couldn’t have gone beyond a certain time but despite him being great for me; he wasn’t either and nor were we in the right phase of our lives to be with each other …

    My 2nd ONE was an intense but short relationship … even now 6 years after our break-up, I can call him up and he will know JUST what to say to me .. as much as we should be together, he had wanted an open relationship (after persuading me to have a long distance relationship) and that was the deal breaker …

    My 3rd ONE … the thought of him hurts me now … and I really wanted him to be THE ONE .. we both were each others’ ONE’s but somehow it didn’t work out … that was 3 years ago and since then I haven’t met anyone who has ‘wowed’ me over .. not that I don’t date but no one appeals to me enough to want to go out with them more than once (or twice just to give it a shot)

    I’m in agreement with you and with Randy here … sometimes we spend so much time looking for the ONE that we don’t realize that the one we are with at that time could really be THE ONE … but that’s human nature – we’re looking out for ourselves right ? So at any given point in our lives – there is SOMEONE who will fit perfectly for us … after that its about whether we like the fit or we want to check out a new style …

  4. October 28, 2010 10:28 am

    Loved this post… just discovered your blog from Just Sayin’s blog. I think there is no such thing as the “one.” I think you find people in your life with which you are compatible and you make it work. I can’t imagine just sitting around waiting for the “one.” What if you never find him/her? How depressing. Embrace the people you have and realize that someone who is not perfect could be perfect for you.
    Excited to find your blog and just added it to my Google Reader!


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