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LAZY DATING 2011: My first 30 days

February 8, 2011

This year seems to be the year of the lazy ass men. In the past 30 days I have met so many men who have no problem telling me they don’t plan on putting forth any effort in getting to know me. This has resulted in me going on zero dates thus far.

Guy 1: During our first textersation (Oh how I loathe these), this guy asks me to send him a pic. I was going to give this guy a break, considering I didn’t remember what he looked like either since we met when I was leaving the club. But, I asked him to send me one too and he said his phone doesn’t take pics. I stopped replying soon after. Then he hit me the next day, “So you really not gonna send me a pic.” To which I didn’t reply.

Guy 2:  This guy offered to cook for me for our first date. First he suggested happy hour, but because it was during one of my fasts, he said that he could cook me up something a lot healthier. I know he was testing me, I just don’t have any desire to play that game right now. Okay wait, there was nothing wrong with him or his approach since he did offer happy hour first. I just wasn’t interested.

Guy 3:  This was yet another textersation. (I’ve just been too lazy to demand or make a phone call.) I had a guy tell me I had to work up to a dinner date. [insert loud obnoxious laughter and then *blank stare*] His first attempt at planning (I use that word very loosely) a date was to offer a DVD and pizza date. I told him that I don’t feel comfortable going to any man’s house that I didn’t know. He then replied, “I don’t just go giving out dinner dates. You have to work up to those.” After confirming that was he was serious, I replied with the following: “That’s really cute but I don’t need to work up to anything. Good luck with trying that line on some other girl. No need in texting me any further.”

Guy 4:  I had had a few phone conversations with this guy and he seemed cool enough. I gave him a few suggestions on different nights and for each them he already had plans. Instead of requesting one on one time, he continually invited me on outings with his friends, for example: “Meet me at [club I would never go to]. I really want to see you.” My homeboy told me this is his thought process. ” He’s thinking, she’s hot and I want to show her off. His friends will be thinking he’s gonna hit later on and if she is crazy, he won’t care.” I wasn’t interested and was tired of being the one trying to see him one on one.

*In my defense, I did offer alternatives to most of these guys. I haven’t met anyone that has captivated me enough to leave Sir Trundle (my bed), get dressed, and go anywhere. No dates so far in 2011.


10 Comments leave one →
  1. Mae permalink
    February 8, 2011 9:57 am

    I feel you on this, I just have no energy to even attempt dealing with dudes like that. I’ve had two guys hit me with such foolishness that you described. One text me Sunday morning at 7:30am, asking what I was doing and if he could come by? Really?? I just can’t, I told him to kick rocks with no shoes on and never in his wretched life text/call me again.

  2. Just Saying permalink
    February 8, 2011 10:50 am

    You have to work UP to a dinner date… hahahahaha love it.

    I’ve come into contact with these guys myself. They all want to play a game from the start to see what they can get away with.

    I’ve actually had one guy tell me we should sleep together first and see if we’re compatiable THEN get to know each other. bahahahahaah Good luck with that, I’m sure your dick has fallen off.

  3. February 8, 2011 12:48 pm

    we all go through droughts. working up to a dinner date? i wonder how many times that line has worked? i’m going to go with never. lol

    • Kerry Crenshaw permalink*
      February 8, 2011 1:46 pm

      The sad thing it’s probably worked on a couple girls before… and that’s why he thinks it was even okay to fix his mouth to say that.

      If certain women tightened their standards we wouldn’t even have this damn blog…

      • February 8, 2011 1:47 pm

        Kerry took the words right outta my mouth. I’m sure all of these men get dates with no problems. I blame low self esteem women.

      • February 8, 2011 2:12 pm

        I definitely THINK that way; but I would never say it out right.

        however, i dont considered chili’s (or the like) qualifying as a dinner date — there’s a bar and usually a happy hour, so i mean…

      • February 8, 2011 8:46 pm

        i think it probably has but then you have to wonder about the type of women it worked on as well.

  4. February 8, 2011 2:25 pm

    @Randy I offered a happy hour, I offered a light breakfast, I even offered coffee!! He said dvd & pizza take it or leave it. I left it.

    • February 8, 2011 2:30 pm

      when presented as such…i would have unfollowed you if you didn’t leave it lol. jk. kinda.

  5. February 15, 2011 11:34 am!! Really? Seriously? I’m so glad that I have not met these numbnuts!! dang!! comic relief..I almost choked on my lunch with the work your way up to a dinner date….

    Women we must, if we do nothing else, increase the standards….men will only do what you allow them to do!!! lol

    keep the stories coming! ha!

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